Home for the Holidays
Caring from a Distance
For many families, the holidays offer the only time of year when everyone can be together under one roof. But when an aging parent or grandparent lives in another city, those cherished gatherings can also serve as a reality check. During a visit, family members may notice small changes — in the elder’s health, cognitive state or routine — that raise questions about how well the elder loved one is coping alone.
“It’s not uncommon for families to realize during the holidays that Mom or Dad might need a little extra help,” said Tammy Hooker, Director of Cambridge Caregivers’ new Austin office. “When you live far away, it’s harder to spot gradual changes. A few days together can tell you a lot.”
If you’re concerned about how an older loved is coping, a holiday visit is a good time to take proactive steps to support them — even from miles away.
Build a Local Network
Start by identifying people nearby who can keep an eye out. “Neighbors, friends, or fellow church members can be wonderful allies,” said Gary Hooker, who co-directs the Austin office along with his wife, Tammy. “During your visit, take the time to introduce yourself and exchange phone numbers. Let them know you’d appreciate a quick call if something seems off.”
A strong local network can provide peace of mind — and ensure someone is available if an emergency arises between your visits.
Meet the Doctor
If possible, schedule or join your loved one for a routine medical appointment while you’re visiting. It’s an excellent way to begin to establish a relationship with your loved one’s physician.
“Knowing who to contact and opening that line of communication can make all the difference later on,” Gary said. “If there’s a medical crisis down the road, you’ll already have a connection and context.”
Get to Know the Local Senior Care Landscape
Tap into local senior resources, too. Each community offers unique support systems for older adults. Consider reaching out to the Area Agency on Aging, local senior centers, or faith-based volunteer programs that offer meal delivery, transportation or social opportunities. Building familiarity with these resources now can make future planning easier.
The holidays are also a good time to explore care options in your loved one’s area. Visit nearby assisted living communities or reach out to providers of in-home caregiving, such as Cambridge Caregivers, to learn what services are available.
Cambridge Caregivers provides professional, compassionate in-home care that allows seniors to live safely and independently in their own homes for as long as possible. Caregivers can assist with activities of daily living (ADLs) — such as bathing, dressing, toileting and grooming — as well as meal preparation, light housekeeping and transportation to appointments and social events.
“Our caregivers are not contractors,” Tammy said. “They’re W-2 employees who are professionally trained through our Manchester Living Institute. That means they’re not only reliable and skilled but also empathetic and invested in their clients’ well-being.”
Even a few days of professional help each week can significantly reduce stress for long-distance families — and help older adults remain independent longer.
Finally, don’t forget to enjoy the moments you share. Tammy recalls hosting her mother, who was living with dementia, during what would become her final Christmas.
“She loved preparing holiday cards for all her friends that year,” Tammy said. “It was such a small thing, but so meaningful. Those cards turned out to be her last, and her friends still talk about how special they were. That time together is something I’ll always treasure.”
Compassion, Connection, and Care
Whether you live across town or across the country, caring for a senior loved one is an act of love. Good care begins with awareness. The holidays offer both: a time to reconnect and a chance to plan for the future.
“At Cambridge Caregivers, we’re here to help families navigate that journey,” Gary said. “You don’t have to have all the answers. Just start by noticing, asking questions and knowing that help is available.”
To learn more about Cambridge Caregivers’ services, visit www.cambridgecaregivers.com or call 512-547-1970.